Beliefs that Keep You Single – My Body Count Doesn’t Matter - Part 7

I'm Going To Tell You This For Your Own Good

Belief That Keeps You Single: How many people I sleep with before my spouse and marriage doesn’t have an effect on my marriage.

Men, you might have read this coming in for a victory thinking that only women’s body counts matters. Yours does too.

Here’s the research on this. You don’t like it. Tough, debate the research.

I do recommend listening to the talk on this recent paper that shows this scientific truth.

I always find it interesting when a group of people rejoice research that proves their ideology, and when that same research turns around it shows it’s always true for them…the research is a lie from their oppressors.

That’s how you know you’re a post-modern ideolog and not one who seeks truth.

Questions research, always. To hell with authority. But your emotional reaction gives you away.

Back to the point.

The higher your body count, the more likely you are to be divorced. It’s not linear, but it is predictive.

Let’s step away from the raw data for one second and ask a question.

“Who is the kind of person who will have a low or high body count before marriage?”

That’s a weird question.

That’s a question that we will need a thousand blog posts to write about, hundreds of books, and millions of videos to start getting right.

So, let’s take one part of this out.

Sex.

Who Knew We Had to Take Sex More Seriously Than We Take Our Coffee Order

Specifically, sex negotiation.

The person who has no to a low body count before marriage is the kind of person who will talk about the kind of sex they want with their wife or husband to live this life out within the sacredness of a marriage, and not destructively in the streets. Their unconscious motivations are made to be more conscious as to not become destructive or pathological.

What does this mean?

Those who have no to low body count before marriage take sex severely seriously.

When they take it severely seriously, they are much more likely to have severely seriously conversations about sex, good sex, sex frequency and sexual needs, in a way that will promote the sex in their lives and marriages instead of making demands and being a victim of the lack of sex or the asking of too much sex from their spouse.

Do I have a study to back up my last statement? No. I haven’t found it to be directly studied in a meaningful way. Someone send me journal article that if you have found it.

So, here’s a hard question that I ask in the video above.

“If you have had a lot of sexual partners, and seriously reform yourself to hold and have the values of those who have no to low body count, are you still doomed to the statistic of having a 300%+ higher divorce rate?”

No.

Do I have data to back up the claim I just made.

No, not scientific data. I’ve just worked with people who have successfully made the change. They did suffer a lot of consequences. It’s not like they got out of it with no harm done and their life wasn’t just immediately perfect, but they got to something that was good and not full of delusions.

And that’s major for our lives. When we can get something good, in spite of ourselves and our pasts, we take that win.

We are not immediately doomed because of our past. But until you make serious changes, you are doomed.

Belief That Will Find You a Good Spouse: I have messed up in my past, welcome to humanity. And maybe I’ve even messed up in the worst ways imaginable. But, I find the right guidance as to creatively solve this problem as to have the best possible love-life I can with what I have and can create.

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