Beliefs that Keep You Single – I Should Listen to my Friends & Therapist - Part 5

Don't Take Advice from Those Who Don't Know

Belief That Keeps You Single: I listen to therapists, friends and influencers who tell me what behaviors to do in a good marriage.

If you want to be in a good marriage that’s going to last, don’t listen to your single friends or friends you know are in bad relationships and do dumb things in their relationships.

Also, don’t listen to therapists that are single either. They may have some book knowledge and data, but that’s not useful. Listening to a therapist about marriage who themselves isn’t successfully married is like listening to a virgin who has watched a lot of porn as if they can teach you how to have good sex.

This goes the same for influencers. Be suspicious of those who present perfection in a marriage and want to teach you how to do it.

And this is why none of this works.

They can tell you behaviors that technically are “good”, but cannot teach you the spirit behind the behavior that is actually needed to have a successful marriage and sex life.

Let me explain.

What's the Best Sex Advice?

You and your spouse are having sex issues, so you listen to a therapist, friend or influencer and start having sex 3x a week. And you do this for a month.

A bad plan is better than no plan, for sure, but the behaviorism of sex isn’t good enough.

The Behaviorism Cure Given by Destructive Therapists, Friends, and Influencers: Have more sex.

The Enlightenment Cure Given by Constructive Therapists, Friends, and Influencers: They will ask you, “Who are the kind of men and women who will look forward to having sex 3x a week with their spouse?” “What do these men and women do to create that in their relationship?”

When you ask these questions to yourself, then you got it. Then you can go out into the dating world and start asking those you are on a first or second date these kind of questions to see if you are getting with someone who is qualified for a relationship with you or not.

Dating Questions to Ask:

1. How much sex should a couple have a week?

2. Why?

3. What should the couple do, and the marriage look like, to make sure that frequent AND good sex is consistent over decades?

If you can’t answer that, you’re going to be single, and you can be single while married. How many folks do we know are alone in their marriages and relationships.

If you can answer these questions and find someone who answers these questions in a satisfactory way, then your singlehood will be behind you.

Belief That Will Find You a Good Spouse: I listen to those who are successful in their marriages because they can teach me the spirit behind the things I and my spouse are to do in a relationship.

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