Beliefs that Keep You Single – What I Want is Good - Part 6

We Know Our Wants Aren't Always that Great

Belief That Keeps You Single: If I Want Something, It Must Be Good For Me.

In my practice with people who are chronically single or chronically in and out of relationships, they have never considered if what they want is good for them.

It is something that is just assumed.

“Why would I want something that isn’t good for me?” I get asked all the time.

I usually say, “Tell me all the times you did something that was bad for you.”

We do things, all the time, that are bad for us. Some of these bad things, let us even say the vast majority, come from destructive wants.

Having a bad day and reach for fast food? Act out that want of yours 50 times. Now how has that worked out for your life?

Treats Have Been Used to Trick You into a Bad Love Life

Consider This: What You Have Been Trained to Want is Bad For You.

We all know this. We can at least call this ‘marketing’. Those who ‘want you to want what they want you to want,’ market their product and idea to you so you think that it was you who wanted their product and idea.

Nietzsche called this the worst type of slavery. Those who don’t even know that they are a slave.

A whole lot of people, organizations and institutions sold to you the idea that if you want something, it must be good for you. But you know, it’s not because you’re single, lonely and miserable.

Let’s be more honest. This is called brainwashing.

A lot of women are sold the idea to want the 666. 6 figures, 6 pack, 6 inches. That is an institutional idea that will keep you single. Good men, the kind of man that you want to marry, not the kind of man that will sleep with you, walk away from a woman who has that brainwashed ideology.

A lot of men are sold the idea to want a woman who causes strife since it is repackaged as “strong”. That is an institutional idea that will keep you single. Good women, the kind of woman who will create peace and build in a marriage, not the kind of woman who will cause strife and rip apart your life for power, walk away from a man who has that brainwashed ideology.

“Adam, so what am I to do to find a spouse?”

Excellent question. Let’s start with this.

Belief That Will Find You a Good Spouse: I need to have and create my own beliefs, from the reality and truths that work, because this is what is good for me.

This is not easy. It’s to undo a whole lifetime of brainwashing.

But, it’s the only way to save oneself from eternal loneliness.

You ready to not be lonely anymore?

Never Be Single Again