Beliefs That Ruin Your Marriage – Accept Me at My Worst - Part 4

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Belief That Keeps Your Marriage Miserable: If you don’t accept me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.

This is not the same as the vows proclamation of, “For better and for worse.”

Let’s be honest, when someone says this dumb quote, they are saying that you have to handle every one of their negative hedonistic, selfish, impulses desires to sometimes see a glimpse of some kindness from them. It’s about what a 2 year old does when they’re throwing a tantrum, but the thing about a two year old, is that they want to have an awesome relationship with you so they are more often not negative and not throwing tantrums, where this adult who has this ideology, is in a consistent state of selfishness.

And let us just call this what it is.

Abuse.

Post-Modern Dating Abuse

“I will emotionally abuse you unless you do exactly what I say, before I even say it,” is the same as, “I will physically abuse you unless you do exactly what I say, before I even say it.”

And you can’t say no to the above if one holds the belief that, “Words are violence,” and, “Silence is violence.”

Having all these post-modern beliefs keeps you in a world of hurt, singleness and loneliness because you are starting off with the idea that your spouse is your enemy.

There is not a long-term possibility to have a good marriage if you ever start off with the position of your spouse being your enemy.

Ever wonder why your marriage is full of problems that are in the way or even having a decent day?

We’re looking for decent right now, not even good, awesome or excellent.

I bet you that you didn’t even realize you held this post-modern belief.

At best, you’ve been tricked if you believe the belief that keeps you miserable in your marriage.

And that sucks.

Now you know.

What do you do about it?

Let’s start with fixing the belief, which will then give you the opportunity to know why you will and won’t act out or pursue certain behaviors.

Belief That Will Save Your Marriage: When I am at my worst, I will have the discipline to defeat these issues because you and I deserve my best.

Now you and your spouse can save your marriage by not needlessly suffering to the post-modern abuse that has killed your marriage.

Stop the Post-Modern Abuse in your Marriage