Beliefs That Ruin Your Marriage – I Should Listen to my Friends & Therapist - Part 5

What's the Difference Between a Therapist and a Snake-Oil Selling Activist?

Belief That Keeps You Single: My therapist, friends and influencers know what to do to save my marriage.

Single people don’t have the ability to tell those in a marriage how to have a marriage.

Folks in trash marriage cannot tell those how to have a good marriage.

Those who have been divorced can help you identify what is missing for a good marriage and have some ability to speak on what is needed for a good marriage, but be suspicious of their resentment towards marriage and/or the opposite sex.

Listen, if you need heart surgery, you don’t get the surgery done by someone who has never successfully completed a heart surgery or someone who is angry at the medical field.

And here’s a whole other problem.

Therapists are Behaviorists.

Behaviors are not the root problem of your marriage. Behaviors are the symptoms to the root problem of your marriage.

Are Your Therapists, Friends and Influencers full of BS?

A behavioral therapist can give you advice that is half-true (which is still a lie) like, “Have sex 3x a week to strengthen your marriage.” Or, “Do these 5 things to space up the bedroom.” They’re as useful as a IG post.

You need someone who gets to the core, the spirit, the soul of the behavior. We can call that ‘wisdom’.

The behavioral act of having sex 3x a week WILL NOT SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.

The Enlightenment Psychoanalyst or friend will challenge you with the question of: Who is the kind of spouse, who is with the kind of spouse, who is playfully driven to have sex 3x a week with each other? THIS WILL SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.

This is the huge difference and why you need to listen out, and train your ear, to see if someone is selling you snake-oil-behaviorism, or is giving you the treasure of wisdom and the soul of the actions you are to take.

If you can answer this question and contend with your spouse so they can also answers these questions in a satisfactory way, then the good marriage that you want will start to appear.

Belief That Will Save Your Marriage: I listen to those who are successful in their marriages because they can teach me the spirit behind the things I and my spouse are to do to save our marriage.

Now that you know, why not save your marriage today?

Find the Spirit that Will Save Your Marriage